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What happened that led up to the divorce?

Multiple lies and betrayal which he denied but admitted to one after divorce. Lying was his coping mechanism. Honesty is my faith. The last straw was when he wanted me to move back to my mum's place while he stayed alone in our house.

Things never went back anymore.

What emotions did you experience at the start?

Anger. Disappointment. Self hatred.

What support systems or resources were most helpful to you during this time?

God.

What are the key lessons you learned from your marriage, the divorce journey, and the healing process?

Marriage requires eternal team work. Healing takes time. Don't rush.

What do you think you could have done better for yourself during this time?

I should have put myself in first place, over everyone else, earlier than now. But better late than never.

What would you say to your ex-partner if you met them now?

Don't treat me like an enemy. Please don't forget that when you were at your lowest I was your only supporter. Please don't just focus on my bad and forget about your unfaithfulness so simply. We cannot be lovers but we have the option to be friends.

If you could give one piece of advice to someone going through a divorce, what would it be?

Run. Swim. Fly a kite. Travel. It's ok to do things alone or with just a good friend or two.

How has this experience changed how you see love and relationships?

I still believe in true love but my trust is no longer full.