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What happened that led up to the divorce?

He betrayed me when I was having a stroke during pregnancy. He always goes overseas and I started to believe he was not himself anymore and more phone calls as he will excuse himself to pick up the call. At first,I just ignored it but no he was getting more frequent calls and more overseas trips for him. That time I decided to leave him.

What emotions did you experience at the start?

I felt betrayed. More lies, more drama. I don’t like to act so I free myself when he was overseas and I shifted all my stuff during his overseas trip to find the third party. Thanks buddha.

What support systems or resources were most helpful to you during this time?

I joined the group of single parents group in FB and got resources from the group as they are willing to share. My parents and siblings are the best and some of the friends in my workplace.

What are the key lessons you learned from your marriage, the divorce journey, and the healing process?

The key lessons from the previous marriage is not to believe guys, he was the first and the last guy. It takes time to heal as I believe in karma. Everything got pros and cons.

What do you think you could have done better for yourself during this time?

I think just be myself.

What would you say to your ex-partner if you met them now?

Well I hope we never meet again as he not the one. Well he got his life and I got mine. We've got to treasure the moment as long as I am still breathing.

If you could give one piece of advice to someone going through a divorce, what would it be?

It's not good to get a divorce, go through mediation if you can.

How has this experience changed how you see love and relationships?

This experience helped me to become stronger and not to become a weakling in life. I still love my girl. As for relationships, just friendship will do.